Nighttime Bottle Feedings – How Do I Wean My Nine-Month-Old?

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  • March 26, 2017
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Hi. I’m Kim West, the Sleep Lady, and in this video I’m going to answer Tiffany’s question about nighttime bottle feedings that she posted on Facebook:

“We cannot kick the night wakings of our nine-month old. Our daughter is obsessed with her bottle, whether hungry or not, and must have it when she wakes for comfort. How do I break an addiction like this?

The problem is that she will go from groggy and fussy to fully awake if we don’t give her one right away. So, more often than not, we just give her the bottle. But it’s getting wearisome to wake many times per night for this. Recently, she is waking four to five times.”

A Common Problem

Tiffany, thank you for your great question. It’s actually very common for babies this age to use nursing or nighttime bottle feedings as a sleep crutch. As you’re saying, she really needs it whether she’s hungry or not. So, more than likely it’s the habit of needing to suck to sleep and back to sleep that creates the need for the bottle.

Make a Night Weaning Plan

First, you’re going to need to make a night weaning plan. Talk to your pediatrician and describe a typical three days of food and drink for your daughter. Tell him, “This is how much she eats and drinks during the 12-hour waking period. Given her age, weight and health, do you think that she needs to receive a nighttime bottle feeding?”

This will help you determine how many feedings she needs, if any, each night. You will probably have one or no feedings during the night. Then you can build that into your plan.

Prepare for Sleep Coaching With Good Naps

You always want to start sleep coaching at bedtime after a great day of naps. Even if it means rocking, holding, feeding her to sleep, or having her sleep in a stroller, do what works for you. Make sure she gets about three hours of sleep combined over two naps on that first day. If the combined time of 3 hours has to be over three or four naps that is also okay in order for her to be well-rested for sleep coaching.

A Good Bedtime Plan

The really great, sweet-spot bedtime at her age is somewhere between 7 and 7:30 p.m.. You will make your way through the day and when you get to 7 or 7:30 she will be well rested, well fed, and not awake too long.

At bedtime you will go through a soothing bedtime routine. Feed her with a bottle, and if she seems really sleepy, then keep the light on so that she stays awake. Don’t allow her to go to sleep or get too drowsy. If you find that she starts to fall asleep while feeding, then I would even change her diaper. Make sure she is really awake and then give her kisses and put her into the crib. Pull the shade is down and turn off the light. Then sit next to her and start the sleep-coaching process.

The Shuffle

When I say “sit next to her,” I am assuming that since you’re on my Facebook page you’re familiar with the Sleep Lady Shuffle, which is outlined in my book. When you do the Sleep Lady Shuffle you will stay with her until she’s asleep. Then you will do the same thing every time she wakes up, offering her physical and verbal reassurance each time.

Work On Weaning

Once you have a weaning plan in place you will only give her a nighttime bottle feeding at the designated weaning plan times. For example, if you wanted to wean her completely at night—and your doctor supports that—then you only want to go down to one feeding at first. You would have either a “set-time” feed or a dream feed. You feed her that one time for three nights and on the fourth night there is no feeding.

Over the first three nights you could also reduce the number of ounces in each bottle so that by the fourth night there’s only a couple of ounces. Then you would do no feeding on that fourth night. Next, you would stay an extra night by her crib in case that’s a big change for her and she needs that reassurance. After that, you move out away from her crib every three nights.

You Can Do It!

I know I’m making it sound simple, and yet there are lots of steps to it. However, overall, this is how you’re going to address the problem so that she will learn how to go to sleep and stay there without using a bottle. I hope this helps you make a plan.

Kim West
Kim is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker who has been a practicing child and family therapist for more than 24 years, and the creator of the original gentle, proven method to get a good night’s sleep for you and your child. She is the author of The Sleep Lady's Good Night Sleep Tight, its companion Workbook and 52 Sleep Secrets for Babies. Click here to read more about her.

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