Last updated on April 16th, 2024

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Kim West, MSW, Mom of 2, creator of The Sleep Lady Shuffle

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“I’m pregnant with my second child. My son will be 3 when the new baby comes. He is a great sleeper. We live in a small 2 bedroom townhouse.. so my concern is how long should the baby roomshare with my husband and I before moving the 2 kids to the same room? I’m worried that the baby will be waking up my 3 year old during the night…but at the same time, I don’t want the baby to be used to sleeping in our room for too long (it’s also a small room so once the baby outgrows the cradle…I won’t be able to fit a crib in there). I’d love your expert advice!!”roomshare with second baby

Consider Roomsharing

Congratulations on the upcoming arrival of baby #2! Given your room set up, I think it makes the most sense to have your baby sleep in the cradle in your room, or roomshare, until he or she sleeps through the night. Consider buying a sound screen or white noise maker for your son’s room so he won’t hear the baby wake during the night. Read the two chapters in “Good Night, Sleep Tight” about newborns, especially “The Right Start for Newborns and Infants”. If you follow my “8 Rules of Infant Slumber” with your new baby and gently sleep shape, you won’t have to sleep coach him or her later! Once the baby knows how to put him or herself back to sleep, he or she can take that skill everywhere!

Stack Bedtimes

Once you are ready to transition the baby to the toddler’s room so that they can roomshare, you may have to put the baby to bed before your toddler. That would mean the preschooler would have to have his bedtime routine in another room and then get in to bed quietly while his sibling is sleeping. Teach him some “sleep manners”; such as, “no talking to, playing with, or waking the baby when he is asleep”. Explain that it’s so special to share a room and its important to have good sleep manners.

Hope that helps!

Sweet dreams,

Author: Kim West, MSW, Mom of 2, creator of The Sleep Lady Shuffle

My name is Kim West, and I’m the mother of two beautiful girls, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker who has been a practicing child and family therapist for more than 21 years, and the creator of the original gentle, proven method to get a good night’s sleep for you and your child. My sleep journey began when I started experimenting with gently shaping my daughter’s sleep by not following the conventional wisdom at the time. After having success (and then more success with my second daughter!), I began helping family and friends and my step-by-step method spread like wildfire, exactly like an excellent night of sleep for a tired parent should!