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Last updated on May 26th, 2024

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Kim West, MSW, Mom of 2, creator of The Sleep Lady Shuffle

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Guest post by Dr. Andy Rind 
night terrorsOne of the most common sleep complaints parents bring up with their pediatrician is nightmares. Nightmares can be very challenging for parents and of course upsetting for your child. When trying to help improve their child’s nightmares, it is important to first makes sure that nightmares are, in fact, what is going on.
There are several similar sleep disturbances that people often think are nightmares:

  • night terrors,
  • confusional arousals, and
  • sleepwalking

All of these are common sleep disturbances that have been called “nightmares.” There are also some rare sleep conditions that parents sometimes confuse with nightmares. For this article, we will discuss the common disturbances.
 

What Is A Sleep Cycle?

 
At night, your child goes through 3-4 (or more) repeating sleep cycles. These sleep cycles all have a similar pattern, except that they have increasing amounts of REM sleep (when we dream) and decreasing amounts of deep sleep.
Because of this, sleep disturbances that happen during deep sleep tend to happen early in the night, often during the first 3 hours after a child falls asleep. Sleep disturbances that happen during REM sleep often happen later in the night.
 

Nightmares

 
Nightmares occur when children are dreaming (which only happens in REM sleep). They tend to happen after a child has been sleeping for 2-3 hours. Additionally, because nightmares happen while your child is dreaming, if you wake your child out of a nightmare, she will be able to remember at least part of the nightmare.
Finally, it is very easy to wake a child out of a nightmare. You should be able to gently nudge them, or talk to them, and you will be able to wake them and stop the event.
 

Night Terrors

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Night terrors, which occur during deep sleep, can be similar to nightmares, but have some important differences that you can use to tell them apart:

  1. Night terrors will occur within 2-3 hours of the child falling asleep.
  2. It is nearly impossible to stop the episode or wake your child out of the event because they are in a very deep sleep.
  3. Attempting to wake a child who is experiencing a night terror usually just makes the episodes worse.
  4. Since your child is not dreaming, they won’t remember much, if anything, about a night terror event. In fact, they usually won’t even know that something happened!

 

Other Night Wakings

 
Sleepwalking and confusional arousals are in the same family as nightmares – they both occur during deep sleep.
When sleepwalking, your child will not act scared or frightened. They will simply be walking at night.
Confusional arousals are a fancier name for sleep talking. If your child seems scared, or frightened, then the episodes are more likely to be nightmares or night terrors.
 

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Author: Kim West, MSW, Mom of 2, creator of The Sleep Lady Shuffle

My name is Kim West, and I’m the mother of two beautiful girls, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker who has been a practicing child and family therapist for more than 21 years, and the creator of the original gentle, proven method to get a good night’s sleep for you and your child. My sleep journey began when I started experimenting with gently shaping my daughter’s sleep by not following the conventional wisdom at the time. After having success (and then more success with my second daughter!), I began helping family and friends and my step-by-step method spread like wildfire, exactly like an excellent night of sleep for a tired parent should!