Hi. I’m Kim West, The Sleep Lady, and today I’m going to answer Holly’s question:
“My nine-month-old still wakes up four times a night for apparently no reason. Any advice? I give her water in the night and her dummy (pacifier). She generally goes back to sleep until maybe 5:30 a.m. and then it seems we start our day with a grouchy baby. She sleeps from 6 p.m. to 12 midnight and then is up sporadically until 6:00 a.m. -Holly”
Good Naps Lead To Good Nighttime Sleep
Holly, the average nine-month-old needs about 11 hours during the night and 3 hours during the day over the course of two naps. Sometimes we have to hold on to a third nap until they’re napping long enough to make it to bedtime. A good nap schedule that includes 3 hours of good sleep will make a big difference in how well and how long she can sleep at night.
Drowsy But Awake
Be sure she is awake when she’s being put down both for naps and bedtime. This will help her learn how to put herself to sleep and back to sleep.
If you’re putting her into the crib at bedtime with her pacifier or dummy (and she’s almost asleep), then you need to put her in more awake.
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Sleep Coaching Tips:
- Always start the learning process at bedtime.
- Always start after a great day of naps.
- Choose your sleep method:
- Stay and do The Sleep Lady Shuffle.
- Leave and come back to check in on her.
Whatever method you choose, pick what you can follow through with consistently.
Let’s address the use of water and a dummy at night so we can determine if they are sleep crutches (something your child needs to go to sleep and back to sleep).
Water At Night
I’m not sure whether you started giving her water in the night because she was getting a bottle (or sippy cup or breastfeeding) when you night weaned her and at some point you replaced it with water?
Some babies won’t take water because they only like milk in their bottle. But, for those who are happy to have water in their bottle, it may become a new sleep crutch. The child may begin to fuss about how much water is in the cup or bottle as it does not provide enough sucking time to soothe herself back to sleep.
Most babies don’t need water during the night, but, if she will take water in a sippy cup, you could put a small one in the corner of her bed. Be sure it is spill proof and that she can help herself to it. You can even hand it to her if you feel she needs water. But make sure you don’t get into the habit of refilling the water cup because that will be your new sleep crutch.
Decide About The Pacifier
Next, decide what to do about the dummy.
Figure out whether she has the pincer grasp, which is the ability to pinch the pacifier, pick it up, and put it back in her mouth by herself. You will probably see this if you’re just starting to do any self-feeding during the day. If that’s the case, and you want to keep the pacifier, put several of them in her crib.
Start by scooting them closer to her and putting one pacifier in each hand so she can put it back in her mouth herself. Eventually push them closer to her and direct her to them so that she starts to put them in her mouth herself.
If you don’t want to do any of that because you have had it with the dummy, then you would have to wean her from it. Unfortunately, there’s no way to do this gradually. It’s either in your mouth or it’s not.
Tips on Weaning From the Dummy
- Take away the pacifier on a night after a great day of naps.
- Put her in her cot (or crib) without her dummy at all.
- Stay with her and offer physical and verbal reassurance until she’s asleep.
- Slowly move out of the room over the course of a few days.
- Be prepared for some crying at bedtime and during the night when you take away the pacifier.
It’s tough to wean the dummy because there is no gradual method. But, you can be there to pat, shush, pick her up, and hold her to calm her down until she’s asleep and back to sleep.
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