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Hi, Kim West, The Sleep Lady and in today’s video, I’m going to answer this mom’s question:
“Help! My 11-month-old was doing great with her naps and sleep at night a month ago. Now, after two colds, a trip to visit great grandma and upper incisor teething, things are not going as well. She used to sleep 1 to 1 ½ hours in the morning, now it’s 30 to 45 minutes and then she can’t make it until her afternoon nap. So, she has a short 30-minute power nap before lunch. I should add that she’s also awake by 6:00 a.m. and now sometimes earlier. She then naps from 2 to 4 p.m. typically. She is done for the night by 7:00 p.m.
“The big change is that she needs to be rocked prior to falling asleep at bedtime. She also wakes up several times at night now expecting to be picked up. I think it’s because of all the colds and teething. She does have a lovey and still uses a soother for napping and bedtime. Any suggestions to get my girl back on track?”
Repeat Your Sleep Coaching
Sounds like you are going to have to go back and redo The Shuffle. That means that you have to start on a day that has good naps. By the way, a 45-minute morning nap and a 2-hour afternoon nap are okay. For now, I would be consistent about the early rising, and then start on a night at 7:00 p.m. without rocking her to sleep.
Back on The Wagon
Have your soothing bedtime routine, then put her in to the crib awake, lights off, night light on, shade down, the whole program. You should expect her to protest more than she normally does. This usually happens when a child used to sleep well or was sleep coached successfully before, then encounters a sleep speed bump. We regress as the parent and then we have to say, “All right, we’ve got to get back on the wagon.”
A child who has had a sleep speed bump tends to not just cry, but shriek, which is what I’d like to call the intermittent reinforcement shriek. It’s your child saying, “Oh, my gosh, what are you doing? And why are we doing this again? And why can’t we go back to what we were doing at grandma’s when I was sick last week?”
So, that’s the bad news. The good news is that she has the skill, which means that she just needs to remember how to fall asleep by herself. If you are consistent, she will remember quickly, but you have to get through that shrieking (or what they call in Behavioral Science an extinction burst) for her to be able to remember, “Oh, we’re going back to this. I know how to do this. I guess you’re not going to hold me to sleep any more.”
Again, get back on the sleep coaching wagon. Put her into her bed awake. Be consistent in your response. Get through that tough part and she’ll be back to your good sleeper, just like she was before.
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