Sleeping Through the Night — Why Did My Baby Stop?

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  • February 09, 2019
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If you would rather read than watch my above video then here is the transcript of this week’s baby sleep problem video:

Hi! I’m Kim West, The Sleep Lady. Today, I’m going to answer an exhausted mom’s email question about her 10-month-old baby’s sleep problem. She didn’t give me her name. So, I’m just going to call her ‘mom’:

“I have a 10-month-old daughter and most nights, she goes to sleep beautifully at bedtime. She takes a bath, PJs, stories then to bed sleepy but awake. She fusses a little but usually she falls asleep no problem. She used to be a very good sleeper, often sleeping for 9 or 10 hours at night, not every night but a lot of times. Lately, her sleep is getting worse and not better.

“She wakes up screaming in the middle of the night and goes onto her knees and screams more. We don’t know what to do. She is still in the bedroom with us as we live in a one-bedroom apartment so this is our only option right now. She is in a crib right next to the bed. So, I don’t think it’s separation anxiety. Help! We’re exhausted.”

Rule Out Reflux

I want you to rule out reflux, just in case. I don’t have a lot of information about your situation but I would find out from your pediatrician if he/she thinks that your baby might have reflux and that’s what waking her up. In other words, her stomach acids are coming up at night. Reflux can wake a baby during the night.

Be Consistent in Your Response to Night Wakings

I am not sure whether you feed her during the night or not. If there is some inconsistency in that, so that sometimes she wakes up and is fed and sometimes she wakes up and is not fed, that’s inconsistent. Make sure you have made a decision about whether she needs to feeding during the night and then follow through with your doctor-approved plan consistently.

Drowsy but Awake

Make sure you’re putting her down well-napped and awake enough. I’m not sure how sleepy is “sleepy but awake” in your description. Remember that bedtime is the easiest time to put yourself to sleep, so you want your baby to go into her bed awake. It’s really more awake than asleep at this age. Awake means: “I’m dry, fed, warm, loved, and now, it’s time for me to go into my bed.”

You can do this with her crib next to your bed. You can either lie down on your bed or sit up in your bed and offer physical and verbal reassurance until she can put herself to sleep. Pick her up, of course, if she gets hysterical, calming her and putting her back down. Do the same thing for all of the awakenings  — unless she is having a feeding. Then feed her, burp her and put her back down in the crib. Make sure that the first thing you do is not immediately pick her up. Wait until she really needs you to pick her up, if at all.

After a few days you can move the crib a little bit away so you sort of modify the Shuffle for a one-bedroom apartment. It’s absolutely doable and you can nap coach this way also.

Video filmed by In Focus Studios

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6 Comments

  • hperry0201 says:

    Hi Kim,
    My four month old son is having  a lot of trouble sleeping at night. He was sleeping through the night from 9:00-6:30 for about 2 weeks, and then one night it completely changed. Now he wakes up at least three times a night and can be soothed back to sleep quite easily with some belly rubbing and “shushing”, but then about ten minutes later he is up again. This pattern can continue for up to an hour. He will initially cry to get our attention, but then sometimes wants to play and other times just fusses around in his crib. We just stopped swaddling him about ten days ago and just started doing a dream feed at around 11:00 about four nights ago. He takes four naps a day, usually he only sleeps for about 50 minutes; I have been trying to soothe him back to sleep during naps to get at least an hour sometimes an hour and a half; sometimes I am successful, sometimes he resists.
    We put him to bed drowsy, but awake after we do a short nighttime routine and we have been trying not to feed him during the night, with the exception of the dreamfeed. He also has been waking up around 5:30 for the day since this has started happening. Please help us! We are exhausted! 
     
    Thank you,
    Heather

  • twinmom says:

    Hi Kim,
    I need help. At first I thought we were doing a good job, but now I’m thinking differently. We have twin boys who are soon to be 11 months old. They are napping around 9:30/10:00 and 1:30/2:00. Usually it is an hour each time. Sometimes it could be an hour and a half and other times it is only 25 minutes (they do go to daycare). When I try to put them down for a nap at home – it takes awhile for them to settle down and nap. Then when one wakes up they usually wake the other.  However, The main problem I am having is at night. The boys are good eaters and do not eat in the middle of the night. We usually put them down at 7/7:30. We do bath, pj’s and bottle. They go to bed usually pretty sleepy and go down well. However, around 2 am the one starts to wake, is fussy. I give him his pacifier or just adjust him and he will go back to sleep. However i feel like I just get to sleep and then he wakes up again. This happens 1 – 3 times a night. Some nights are worse than others and those nights are hard. The other twin usually sleeps well through the night. Please help.Thank you kindly.

  • daybyday366 says:

    I don’t know if it is too late to submit a question, but if not, I’d love to know why my 8 month son is suddenly waking up at night to eat.  He seems to be actually hungry because if I let him nurse, he will eat everything I have.  I have used your book from the beginning and he has been a great sleeper and napper for me.  I don’t know if there is a problem with my breastmilk, or if there is something wrong with his sleeping habits.  I feed him regularly through out the day, both milk and solids.  He just wakes up screaming once a night, drinks all that I have, and goes right back to bed!  Thank you!

  • Laura C says:

    Hi,
    I am having trouble with my 8 1/2 mo son in 3 areas: naps, early wakenings, and night wakenings. He consistently wakes up for the day, happy and energetic, at 5 a.m. I don’t go to him until 6:30. We try to start his first nap at 9 and his second around 2, depending on when he woke from his first nap. His bedtime is very consistent around 7:10 p.m. (bath/lotion/jammies/books/breast) and he usually goes to sleep easily, drowsy but awake, but wakes up about every 1-2 hours. I am still feeding him twice a night; otherwise he will cry for an hour until I feed him. 
     
    For naps, he has always slept well in his swing. I’m trying to cut it out, so I have been putting him in his crib for naps the past few days, and he either doesn’t sleep or only sleeps for a short time, and it’s impossible to get him back to sleep. Do I have to put him back in the swing and get night figured out first?

  • breefawn says:

    Laura C Hi, Laura! That sounds tiring for you! The Sleep Lady has some very informative articles that should help with your early riser. You can find them here: http://www.sleeplady.com/baby-sleep/rise-shine-the-early-waking-toddler, and http://www.sleeplady.com/baby-sleep-problems/my-baby-wakes-up-3-4-times-a-night-please-help-im-desperate. As for your naps, I would encourage you to take a look at naps on page 168 in The Sleep Lady’s book, Good Night, Sleep Tight; you may also want to read a bit more about how to help your baby nap here: http://www.sleeplady.com/baby-sleep/naptime-tips.